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Motivation, Mindfulness, Setting Goals

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Looking for a Destiny Everything you experience and achieve in life is based on your intention, expectation, and vision.

Do you believe that? If it were true, what does it say about choices you may have made? We always get what we want and expect, whether we think so or not!

Of course, that doesn’t mean that outside influences don’t play out in our lives. They do, all the time. But how we negotiate and transform those influences is determined by us. It’s not a question of whether or not obstacles, challenges, and disappointment exit. They exist in abundance. The question is how you address them, and how your attitude and predisposition may be influencing their perceived impact.

This is something that every mature teaching system agrees on, from Buddhism to New Thought. More importantly, simple honest observation bears it out every day.

Without an intention, nothing is actually ‘accomplished’

This does not mean that your life must be dominated by your goals. Learning to be present, to be mindful, to have awareness in everyday life is essential. It is not a question of one being more important than the other. It’s not either or. In fact, it has been demonstrated that people who are on track with their goals and vision, and who are taking action to achieve them in a deliberate and conscious way, are more able to release anxiety and fully live in the present moment, which translates to fully enjoying life – this is something else that simple observation bears witness to every day. Just think of the people you know who are getting things accomplished in a steady measured way with deliberation and joy, clear intention and a clear plan.

There are two keys to sustaining intention and vision. The first is CONGRUITY —  being in agreement with yourself, embodying your ‘bliss’, and living with the integrity that allows you to live from the inside out. That means NOT fighting against yourself, living your truth, knowing your values and priorities, and trusting them.

The second key is MOTIVATION. Motivation is based on emotion, and emotions do not last. So the question is how you live into the marvelous unknown, with trust, enjoying the journey of your life so that it’s unfolding becomes a source of pleasure and joy. How do you become naturally self-motivated. How do you generate motivation within yourself every day. There are ways to learn to do exactly this. This is the not-so-secret secret known to almost everyone you have ever admired, emulated, or been inspired by — from the Buddha to Oprah Winfrey, from Nelson Mandela to the the Rolling Stones

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Published on July 20, 2011

Weight Loss through Hypnosis

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Weight watchers may be focusing on the wrong thing. When you watch  your weight going up and down, up and down, where is your focus? On not being overweight, on not being fat. Your unconscious mind doesn’t understand ‘not’. It’s very child-like in this respect, which is why using hypnosis may be ideal. because hypnosis is learning to talk to that child inside that we refer to as the unconscious mind. It’s the child-like part of us that is at the center of  all our learning and habitual behaviors.

Weight loss and weight control is a concern for just under one third of the population of the US. That’s how many people are officially obese, give or take a few million.

your ideal weight

Since special weight-loss and diet programs are a 40 billion dollar a year industry you might conclude, as many have, that diets don’t work.

Watching your weight is like my asking you to not remember the sound of fingernails on a blackboard. You’ll think of it anyway and it will probably put your teeth on edge. And even if you are now thinking of a hot fudge sundae instead, you had to first think of the sound of the blackboard in order to not think of it. Now if I ask you to stop thinking of that hot fudge sundae, you may start to think about the fingernails on the blackboard again.

Focusing on your weight, your diet, or on not going to the refrigerator between meals works in the same sort of way. You go round and round inside your head and rarely achieve any results.

Weight control programs, short-term intensive weight loss boot camps, fat farms, will power, fasting … you name it, none of them have permanent lasting success for most people; and the reason is simple when you understand what does work.

What works? It’s the combination of simultaneously changing:

  • your attitude
  • the underlying emotional issues
  • your diet
  • your lifestyle, and how you exercise i.e. doing exercise that’s fun
  • and the way you bring awareness and mindfulness into how you live

Easy, you say? Yeah right!

Actually, if you learn to live with a positive mindset and bring focus to what you do – especially eating – it is a lot easier than you might think.

Mindfulness and focus are important. When you learn a few simple hypnotic techniques you will learn to get out of your own way, and trust your unconscious mind to help you on the road to good health. A balanced diet, comes from  balance life. A balanced life comes from congruent values, confidence,  and a positive attitude. Obsessing about what you can or cannot eat, chronic anxiety and habitual stress won’t help you. By learning simple steps towards maintaining clearer focus you will make more deliberate, conscious choices day by day, and moment by moment. Mindfulness helps the hypnotic process, and the hypnotic process makes it easier to be mindful.

Thinking, controlling, depriving yourself doesn’t work. Hypnosis can help you find an alternative because it gives you new inner strategies, and an unconscious impetus  that moves you towards effortless awareness and inner congruence.

When you are nourished by your life as a whole, and feel satisfied, fulfilled, and safe, why would you need to abuse your body with excess weight and unhealthy food? When you work with your unconscious mind, and when you realize that it wants you to be healthy, there’s no stopping you.

That’s why hypnosis has been the most effective path for anyone who is ready to stop watching their weight, and minding their diet once and for all. When you’re ready to live your life fully and joyfully, effortlessly maintaining  your appropriate ideal weight, you will discover that hypnosis can bring you the simple permanent ongoing solution to eating-disorders, losing those few pounds, or obesity that you’ve been looking for.

Published on November 19, 2009

Four Keys for Mindfulness Life Coaching, towards Living on Purpose and Creating Change

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quadrant1-150x150Practical spirituality – is learning to live in balance, being in congruence with your essential values (the values that define who you truly are). It also means being in harmony with your surroundings. It means bringing specific positive change into your own life, and being capable of being of real service to others.

Here are four keys, four distinctions that may help you understand the process of change, as well as the process of communicating change. They are based on a map of learning that is common to all of us, yet  slightly different for each of us. This is a key distinction in our Buddhist Coaching.

1. Why? Why do I even need to change. Give me a reason. Inspire me. Tell me a story. Capture my imagination, so that I can begin this journey with you.

2. What? What will this involve. What will it cost me? What will I have to sacrifice? What will I have to give up? What will I gain? What will happen in a day, a week, a year … where will this journey take me?

3. How? Let’s start. Tell me, show me. Let’s do this now together. Show me how. Talk me through it.

4. What if? Now that I have learned something about this let me ask a question. What if … ? Suppose I did it this way … or that way …?

Some models of change dig into your history and  presuppose that it is important to know the causes, reasons, and conditions that may have limited your options for change. That is a “why” modality.

Have you ever met someone who was interested in the theory, history, and background much more than in the practicalities of how to do something? For example someone who had learned all about how to make something, yet never got around to actually doing it? That’s a “what” person.

Have you ever been at a lecture and listened to people who ask purely hypothetical questions before they have absorbed, or started to put into practice the subject of the lecture. Those would be “what if” people.

The best models for change, and a key component to the work we do with Mindfulness Coaching is “how.” It means that our prime focus is specifically on helping you, and providing the leverage for you, to implement change. Mindfulness Coaching is all about how you change (thoughts, actions, habits)  - so that you can, so that you do.

Published on January 9, 2009